Here are some thoughts and facts about my recent days.
1. Today I finally started radiation.
Four weeks of radiation five days a week. It's going to be a challenge, and I might go a bit cuckoo, but I have started.
2. I sometimes feel guilty.
It's been a long time since I have written. I think that I have felt stuck with my thoughts about all of this. I have been feeling goodish, and so it felt strange to talk about being sick with cancer, because I wasn't sick. That caused a strange feeling of guilt. I know so many others who are sicker, with more complicated situations, and who am I to complain, and so on and so forth.
I have been reaching out to some lovely women who have gone through this, and they assure me that any stage of this disease is bad because it is cancer. It is tough and it changes us. And so enough with guilt. It doesn't help anyone. It just makes me paralyzed.
3. Soup helps.
Two weeks ago I started a hormone blocker called Tamoxifen which blocks my estrogen. I will be taking that for ten years. It has many strange side effects and essentially I have been put into medical menopause - BUT - I can still get pregnant. NO FAIR! Anyhow, as I have started feeling not so good, the one thing that helps is soup. Simple, homemade soup.
4. Radiation is strange.
I can't help think about all of the pop culture references to radiation and how it breeds sea monsters, two headed goats and other such creatures. I also know what real radiation has done to large groups of people in Hiroshima and Chernobyl. Horrible. I now have to flip that thought around and make it my friend. Weird. Still trying to figure this one out.
5. Enough is enough.
When I met with a therapist, she couldn't believe how much trauma I have been through in the past 6 years. 2 miscarriages, a dad with cancer, a baby in hospital with very serious ailments (max is much better and has a very good belly scar) , a car accident, death of my father and NOW this diagnosis of breast cancer. Come on, world. I am a nice person. After this is all done, please take a hiatus of crappy happenings for me, okay? At least one year of greatness with no big crappy traumatic thing. I am only so strong.
6. People really are kind and generous
I did a GoFundMe campaign over here https://www.gofundme.com/LisaPNBreastCancer. Thanks to the great help of my friend Lori Yates (also an amazing musician!) who urged me to put it up. I was iffy about doing it, but it has really helped me and my little family feel some relief as we move through this time of treatment and healing. People who I have known forever donated, and people who I have not seen for years, next to total strangers. Yeesh. My heart is full.
7. Sometimes cat videos will make you smile.
There is nothing more to this. Just that the little things matter.
8. Little people make everything better.
Here is the evidence. Me and my son Max. My heart grows ten times bigger every time I see it.